Someone asked me the other day " hey, don't you ever get tired of being so happy and positive all the time? How can you be so NICE?" I was thrown! Ok maybe not completely since I've heard a little about this before. "You always have a smile on your face...you're so happy...you're so NICE to EVERYBODY...I really like talking to you...thank you for being so kind...-it's rare" Even though I've heard these comments before, it still surprises me a little. Not that people think I'm nice but that so many people experience the opposite - often enough that they are shocked enough to comment.
Makes you, ok me, wonder why are so many people not nice? Just plain old mean? How do they get that way? Can't make me believe that people are born that way...hmm course i have a seen pictures of newborn babies with some pretty mean mugs. Looking like they've been here before and experienced all the atrocities of life ALREADY!
But really - why? Maybe they - the mean people - have been through things that are awful, hurtful and it shaped who they are as a person. Now their personalities reflect animosity, anger and MEANNESS - instead of their true feeling - fear. Fear of pain...Fear of being hurt...Fear of vulnerability... Fear of feeling all those feelings again.
Some think it makes you weak or is a sign of weakness if you're nice. A sign of weakness??!! SERIOUSLY!!? To those people who think that being mean makes you strong, I call BS! It's actually the opposite. You have any idea how much strength it takes to be nice? Especially to people who you know have been anything but nice to you? No? Well I do.
I feel like everyone has been through something - painful, traumatic, down right tear-inducing - but you are NOT and do NOT have to be locked down by your painful experiences. Having the ability to not lose sight of the fact that we've all been through something, shows a strength of character that a weak person, a MEAN person just doesn't have.
Makes you, ok me, wonder why are so many people not nice? Just plain old mean? How do they get that way? Can't make me believe that people are born that way...hmm course i have a seen pictures of newborn babies with some pretty mean mugs. Looking like they've been here before and experienced all the atrocities of life ALREADY!
But really - why? Maybe they - the mean people - have been through things that are awful, hurtful and it shaped who they are as a person. Now their personalities reflect animosity, anger and MEANNESS - instead of their true feeling - fear. Fear of pain...Fear of being hurt...Fear of vulnerability... Fear of feeling all those feelings again.
Some think it makes you weak or is a sign of weakness if you're nice. A sign of weakness??!! SERIOUSLY!!? To those people who think that being mean makes you strong, I call BS! It's actually the opposite. You have any idea how much strength it takes to be nice? Especially to people who you know have been anything but nice to you? No? Well I do.
I feel like everyone has been through something - painful, traumatic, down right tear-inducing - but you are NOT and do NOT have to be locked down by your painful experiences. Having the ability to not lose sight of the fact that we've all been through something, shows a strength of character that a weak person, a MEAN person just doesn't have.
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