Letting go isn't always an easy thing. It is most times, well, a necessary thing...of course necessary has nothing to do with easy.
How many of you are currently in a relationship? No, not with chocolate or alcohol but an actual relationship with another person? They text you or call you every day several times a day...you're making plans to see them before you even finish with one date...you miss them when your time together for that date is drawing to an end...you see them walking towards you and you can't help but smile, waiting for that hug, that kiss...you have so much fun with them you can't imagine them not being around... Fun stuff right? (Ok well most of the time it is - if not, get out but that's a post for another time)
Ok so for all the currently boo'd up readers, is this your first relationship? Hmm, I'm guessing probably not - at least for most anyway. So at some point you were head over heels for someone else. Each day you woke up excited at the mere thought of them...couldn't live without them, right? But look at you now - all living without them and stuff. Somehow you managed to let go of those feelings for THAT person and transfer them (or ones like them) to a new person.
Think back - did you ever think you could do it? How about that first time you saw them after the breakup or them ghosting (as is most common these days)? How did that feel? Did you avoid them sorta kinda or were you bold and smiled at them? Ha! Stop lying you know you went and crossed the street to avoid them LOL. Ooh okay well how about that first time you saw them WITH someone else, smiling and looking happy...how'd that feel? That smile that was reserved for you...those arms that once held you close...those lips that kissed yours with such passion... Hmm yeah not such a good feeling thinking they are being given to someone else now, huh?
As bad as that felt...as many times as you said "Maaaan, I'm done with dating...done with putting myself out there...tired of being hurt so I'm going to buy a cat/dog and become the mean crotchety old lady/old man that terrorizes teenagers and folks in love at random...as many times as you said all that, you let it go. I'm not saying it wasn't difficult...I'm sure it was scary as all get out to put yourself back out there to try again...(yes I'm speaking from experience)TO LET GO of those feelings weighing you down and to move on from that romance that you thought would never end...
And aren't you glad you did?
How many of you are currently in a relationship? No, not with chocolate or alcohol but an actual relationship with another person? They text you or call you every day several times a day...you're making plans to see them before you even finish with one date...you miss them when your time together for that date is drawing to an end...you see them walking towards you and you can't help but smile, waiting for that hug, that kiss...you have so much fun with them you can't imagine them not being around... Fun stuff right? (Ok well most of the time it is - if not, get out but that's a post for another time)
Ok so for all the currently boo'd up readers, is this your first relationship? Hmm, I'm guessing probably not - at least for most anyway. So at some point you were head over heels for someone else. Each day you woke up excited at the mere thought of them...couldn't live without them, right? But look at you now - all living without them and stuff. Somehow you managed to let go of those feelings for THAT person and transfer them (or ones like them) to a new person.
Think back - did you ever think you could do it? How about that first time you saw them after the breakup or them ghosting (as is most common these days)? How did that feel? Did you avoid them sorta kinda or were you bold and smiled at them? Ha! Stop lying you know you went and crossed the street to avoid them LOL. Ooh okay well how about that first time you saw them WITH someone else, smiling and looking happy...how'd that feel? That smile that was reserved for you...those arms that once held you close...those lips that kissed yours with such passion... Hmm yeah not such a good feeling thinking they are being given to someone else now, huh?
As bad as that felt...as many times as you said "Maaaan, I'm done with dating...done with putting myself out there...tired of being hurt so I'm going to buy a cat/dog and become the mean crotchety old lady/old man that terrorizes teenagers and folks in love at random...as many times as you said all that, you let it go. I'm not saying it wasn't difficult...I'm sure it was scary as all get out to put yourself back out there to try again...(yes I'm speaking from experience)TO LET GO of those feelings weighing you down and to move on from that romance that you thought would never end...
And aren't you glad you did?
I actually did not. I took time for my self. No matter the compliments I hear I am on my me time now. I got caught up in something that was good, but started to not feel good for me as time passed.This lady was sweet and nice. But I found myself breaking a lesson I learned a long time ago. "As my mind and heart had got so close to the point that I feel you with in my spirit yet I seen you so little" I got into something that I promised I would never do again.... distance." She was a lovely lady, smart, awesome, and sweetest person you can ever know whole heartily.I wish this person the very best. But hope she learn like I did to take that me time. Hopes and blessings.
ReplyDeleteThings don't always work out how we'd like. But at the end of the day, you had to do what was best for you. I'm of the mindset that distance is relative and often times only temporary. Take me for instance, I just moved not too long ago. Happy you met someone sweet enough that you would only hope for them the best in life. I'm sure she wishes the same for you.
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