There are certain things that you are, well certain of - yellow and blue make green, the sun rises and sets, basketballs are round, coffee is awesome - but other things - less tangible things - are a bit harder to determine.
Let's say you and a friend go out to dinner. Now even though you guys are going to dinner together it was their idea to go. So, you're planning to split the bill/pay for your own meal, right? Well you get there and order a porterhouse, lobster, 2 mixed drinks and a sweet tea (did I mention it was pay day?). The check comes and you say "hey, we're paying for our own meals, right?" And your friend says "Heck ya, Big Spender. I have to pay my phone bill by midnight...can't pay for your food, too" So you both laugh it off until you realize you can't find your wallet! OMG how could this happen?? No wallet means no cash, no cards and no way to pay for dinner. You tell your friend and rather than let you be embarrassed and have to wash dishes (do they still do this?). Your friend sighs and says "I got it...don't worry about it." You both laugh again but it feels different...strained maybe even forced. You feel horrible because they just mentioned needing to pay their phone bill. You pay the money back the next day and apologize but are things really ok now? How do you know?
Suppose you are crushing hard on someone...I mean like WHOA!!! You've been out a few times in a group but never just the two of you. Until one day they call and ask you on an actual date! You're so geeked so excited that your rush over to your BFF's house and tell them the good news. They barely get their door open before your rush in with "OMG!! It happened! We're going on a date tonight!" Your BFF smiles (wait is that a smirk?) and says "I told them you'd be like this if they asked you out..." Deflated, you thank your BFF (because after all BFFs) and makes your way back home to get ready. You're a lot less excited than you were earlier. Plus, now all these questions are running around in your head and you start to wonder...Would they have asked you out on their own? Did your friend telling them somehow have them do it? Do they even like you like that? Are they crushing on you the way you are crushing on them? How do you know?
Questions, questions, questions...Is your friend upset with you about the dinner/wallet fiasco? Are you still friends? Will they ever go to dinner or anywhere else with you that involves money? Does your crush like you? Not just like you but like you like you? Are they crushing on you, too? Did they ask you out because your BFF suggested it? All these questions and I'm going to tell you exactly how to find the answers...
JUST ASK THEM THE QUESTIONS!! I know it's nerve wracking, scary...you might not get the answers you want but it's better than not knowing...or worse assuming. Besides, everyone knows what they say about people who assume. So put on your big girl/boy pants, step up to the plate - whatever idiom works for you but ultimately JUST ASK THEM!
Let's say you and a friend go out to dinner. Now even though you guys are going to dinner together it was their idea to go. So, you're planning to split the bill/pay for your own meal, right? Well you get there and order a porterhouse, lobster, 2 mixed drinks and a sweet tea (did I mention it was pay day?). The check comes and you say "hey, we're paying for our own meals, right?" And your friend says "Heck ya, Big Spender. I have to pay my phone bill by midnight...can't pay for your food, too" So you both laugh it off until you realize you can't find your wallet! OMG how could this happen?? No wallet means no cash, no cards and no way to pay for dinner. You tell your friend and rather than let you be embarrassed and have to wash dishes (do they still do this?). Your friend sighs and says "I got it...don't worry about it." You both laugh again but it feels different...strained maybe even forced. You feel horrible because they just mentioned needing to pay their phone bill. You pay the money back the next day and apologize but are things really ok now? How do you know?
Suppose you are crushing hard on someone...I mean like WHOA!!! You've been out a few times in a group but never just the two of you. Until one day they call and ask you on an actual date! You're so geeked so excited that your rush over to your BFF's house and tell them the good news. They barely get their door open before your rush in with "OMG!! It happened! We're going on a date tonight!" Your BFF smiles (wait is that a smirk?) and says "I told them you'd be like this if they asked you out..." Deflated, you thank your BFF (because after all BFFs) and makes your way back home to get ready. You're a lot less excited than you were earlier. Plus, now all these questions are running around in your head and you start to wonder...Would they have asked you out on their own? Did your friend telling them somehow have them do it? Do they even like you like that? Are they crushing on you the way you are crushing on them? How do you know?
Questions, questions, questions...Is your friend upset with you about the dinner/wallet fiasco? Are you still friends? Will they ever go to dinner or anywhere else with you that involves money? Does your crush like you? Not just like you but like you like you? Are they crushing on you, too? Did they ask you out because your BFF suggested it? All these questions and I'm going to tell you exactly how to find the answers...
JUST ASK THEM THE QUESTIONS!! I know it's nerve wracking, scary...you might not get the answers you want but it's better than not knowing...or worse assuming. Besides, everyone knows what they say about people who assume. So put on your big girl/boy pants, step up to the plate - whatever idiom works for you but ultimately JUST ASK THEM!
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