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Dear Mackgurl

Dear MG,

First of all, let me tell you that I have been reading your blog for a while and I just wanted to tell you how much I enjoy your posts. You have a great sense of humor but there seems to be a message behind the humor. So, I thought maybe you could help me with a dilemma.

Well, my DH and I have been married for 15 years. He has just recently told me that he no longer finds me attractive. He says that I should put down the cookies and join a gym. That I need to lose some weight! He stopped just short of coming right out and saying I am FAT!! I don't think I'm THAT big. I mean, I'm 5'8" and I'm a size 12. I have always liked my curves - but maybe I could stand to shed a few pounds. Maybe go to the salon and get a new look? IDK what to do. I love my DH and I don't want him to leave me - but this is become a huge issue (no pun intended).

Anyway, thanks for listening.

Signed,
Curvy Carla

Dear CC,

Thanks for reading my blog. And of course, I would be happy to offer you my opinion on your situation. Ok, here goes...You can't make a man  stay with you. Ok - maybe if you're Kathy Bates' character in the movie version of Stephen King's MISERY but you know what I'm saying. If he wants to go, he's going to go. No amount of begging, pleading or crying can make a man bent on leaving stay. 

Can you change your appearance? Sure, that's doable. But I would suggest that before you spend $30/month on a gym membership or dye your hair some garish color that you examine your motives. In other words, make these changes for you - not for your DH. Real talk? He could still leave AFTER you do all that.

Besides that - look at the list of gorgeous women who have had men either leave them completely or cheat:
Sandra Bullock
Eva Longoria
Elin Nordegren
Jennifer Anniston
Siena Miller
Reese Witherspoon
Halle Berry

HALLE BERRY? That woman is so gorgeous that it should be illegal! And, her DH strayed.

My dear CC, ultimately the choice is yours. But after seeing  Ms. Berry on that list, I say...


GIRL, EAT THE COOKIES!


Hugs,
Mackgurl

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  1. AnonymousJune 10, 2011 at 11:44 AM

    Dear CC, I've been around MG's blog laughing and learning along the way too... and I agree with MG about making changes and better choices for yourself, not the DH. The DH will stay or go regardless, but you you'll still have to live with. I am a wellness coach and results seem to only stick when a client joins for no other reason than their own "why". If you want to eat the cookie (or buy the shoes/color your hair/etc.) do it ... (within moderation of course) ... best of luck and support...ylrose

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